The Last One: Cutting off the ex/committing to GI Joe. I wasn't sure if my heart was completely ready to say goodbye to one relationship in order to start another. I sought out advice/feedback from friends to remind me what I wanted/needed for myself, and I thought about what kind of relationship would present the least amount of stress/drama. I believe I made the right decision in putting distance between me & ex-BFG and starting on a new path with GI Joe.
The next one: The job situation. I still don't know if I'm doing the right thing by potentially quitting & looking for less-paying-but-potentially-more-emotionally-rewarding work. I know that I can't stay here much longer because of the stress & anxiety I feel toward just coming here every day. I just wish I had a little bit more time to decide... but then again, more time might mean more time to find excuses to stay & that would prolong the frustration/unhappiness. I think no matter what happens next I will be glad I got out of this rut that I find myself in.
I had to decide whether to eat more or eat less. I am fat, so I decided to stay true to my core values and eat more. I now regret that decision because it has made me fatter.
@bizzy: you have a real gift for being analytical and seeing every side of a situation. It led you to the right decision last time, and I'm sure it will lead you to the right decision (whatever it turns out to be!) this next time.
You are certainly right that sometimes big decisions need to be made quickly in order to avoid tergiversating...and if your current situation is this awful, all the more reason to move on quickly-ish.
Okay, the last big decision I made... The one on the top of my mind was the decision to move my Mare Danika from the Dove Hollow barn to my friend Cathy's barn next door. There were political implications with respect to moving, but I still use the Dove Hollow Arena everyday with Danika, and my gelding Chaman is still at Dove Hollow. Reasons? 1. financial 2. with perhaps more importance that financial, it is better for Danika to be in a place with a larger turn-out area. she needs to run around A LOT. Her physical health has improved greatly since I moved her. so has her mental health.
Next big decision? whether or not to move Chaman there within the next 6 months. He could use the space, and from a financial standpoint, it would be advantageous - but politically it could be rough. I advertise through Dove Hollow. I'd need to get a web page if I moved. I'd still be there like, 6 hours or more a day riding, but I wouldn't be a boarder. My brother could help me with a web page. He could do it in his sleep if I like, could offer him something super cool. He's a mega nerd- I gotta find out what his current gaming habits are...
Honestly, it really does make it easier. I won't really be kicked out of the "dove hollow club", and I like having more responsibilities myself, where Dove Hollow performs so many of them for the boarder. I really do need to move him. I always make things bigger in my head than I need to, and this is so huge in the forefront of my mind that it's making
Re: the last one: how did you decide? Do you feel you made the right decision?
Re: the next one: what makes it "big"? Are you leaning a certain way at this point?
The Last One: Cutting off the ex/committing to GI Joe. I wasn't sure if my heart was completely ready to say goodbye to one relationship in order to start another. I sought out advice/feedback from friends to remind me what I wanted/needed for myself, and I thought about what kind of relationship would present the least amount of stress/drama. I believe I made the right decision in putting distance between me & ex-BFG and starting on a new path with GI Joe.
The next one: The job situation. I still don't know if I'm doing the right thing by potentially quitting & looking for less-paying-but-potentially-more-emotionally-rewarding work. I know that I can't stay here much longer because of the stress & anxiety I feel toward just coming here every day. I just wish I had a little bit more time to decide... but then again, more time might mean more time to find excuses to stay & that would prolong the frustration/unhappiness. I think no matter what happens next I will be glad I got out of this rut that I find myself in.
I had to decide whether to eat more or eat less. I am fat, so I decided to stay true to my core values and eat more. I now regret that decision because it has made me fatter.
@bizzy: you have a real gift for being analytical and seeing every side of a situation. It led you to the right decision last time, and I'm sure it will lead you to the right decision (whatever it turns out to be!) this next time.
You are certainly right that sometimes big decisions need to be made quickly in order to avoid tergiversating...and if your current situation is this awful, all the more reason to move on quickly-ish.
@om nom nom: still, one has to applaud a person being true to himself.
Okay, the last big decision I made...
The one on the top of my mind was the decision to move my Mare Danika from the Dove Hollow barn to my friend Cathy's barn next door. There were political implications with respect to moving, but I still use the Dove Hollow Arena everyday with Danika, and my gelding Chaman is still at Dove Hollow.
Reasons?
1. financial
2. with perhaps more importance that financial, it is better for Danika to be in a place with a larger turn-out area. she needs to run around A LOT. Her physical health has improved greatly since I moved her. so has her mental health.
Next big decision? whether or not to move Chaman there within the next 6 months. He could use the space, and from a financial standpoint, it would be advantageous - but politically it could be rough.
I advertise through Dove Hollow. I'd need to get a web page if I moved. I'd still be there like, 6 hours or more a day riding, but I wouldn't be a boarder.
My brother could help me with a web page. He could do it in his sleep if I like, could offer him something super cool. He's a mega nerd- I gotta find out what his current gaming habits are...
@li'l p: wow, it definitely sounds like you made the right decision with Danika. Does moving her make it easier or harder to move Chaman as well?
Honestly, it really does make it easier. I won't really be kicked out of the "dove hollow club", and I like having more responsibilities myself, where Dove Hollow performs so many of them for the boarder. I really do need to move him.
I always make things bigger in my head than I need to, and this is so huge in the forefront of my mind that it's making
making me a bit nervous for no reason. Chaman could use the extra space as well.
I need to make this move.
Maybe in may or June...