Dunno. Did he squeeze you hard?

not really.

More details needed!

but he stayed out for beers on a schoolnite...dunno.

How often do you see him?

at least three times a week i'd say.

he's english so...kinda reserved i guess. i think it's totally obvious that i'm into him, though, so it kinda makes me wonder. if he was into me too he would make a move.

but we are making progress, i guess. tonight i got him to agree to take me for a ride on his motorbike out to the countryside or something. and sunday we are going to a cooking class together. and we just agreed to try to meet up fri night after school too. so clearly he wants to see me. but maybe it's just platonic. not sure.

If it's that obvious you're into him, and he's still spending time with you, either he's stringing you along (rather unlikely) or he wants to see where it goes.

Wait, northern English or southern?

oh hi -j! just say you...

details: we've known each other somewhere between one and two weeks. we drink. we eat. we text on the days we don't see each other, usually. we compare notes on thai massage school. tonight i took him to a little festival thingy at a university with my thai friends. i think he was really glad i invited him.

Hi :)

Sounds like something good is going on, so run with it.

@superion: yeah, i think so and then we hang out and nothing happens and i think maybe i'm wrong. but the more we hang out the more i like him so the more i want there to be something.

sigh.

shit my battery's almost out. that's a sign i should be sleeping instead of whining about stupid boy shit online.

but thanks for letting me whine, guys! hope all is well w/you!

<3 Miss ya!

hi - are you two ever in situations where it's just the two of you? I suggest meeting at a bar - dinner's not as good cause it's normal to put the table in between you. go to a bar then go to a table where there are 4 chairs and wait for him to sit down and then sit in the one next to him (as opposed to the one across from him) - if he doesn't get weirded out - then, you know, do the whole 'touching when talking' thing. works for me when i'm testing the waters

anyway - no one wants to be strung along. but...rushing in before someone's ready isn't he best idea either

man...these things can be tricky sometimes...

actually we went to a bar last night and sat next to instead of across from each other. which he really initiated. and so i took this as a good sign. and yet...no goodnight kiss or anything.

but like i said, goodnight hug was progress.

oh and i've been touching him while talking him since the third time we went out. i tend to do it more when beer is involved. as i recall, at that bar, where we were listening to/watching live jazz i briefly put my head on his shoulder when laughing about something he/we said.

i mean, are there any of you boys out there that would not get the message that this chick digs you?

but maybe, still, as -j said, it's still not obvious? boys *have* been known to be clueless, in my experience...

@ art: sorry, i missed your question. from nottingham. does this affect your diagnosis, doctor?

where is makeart when you need him?

Conveniently overheard upon my arrival.

Could be clueless, but to be so clueless is a bit of stretch. Could be devoid of confidence but I would have thought you might be able to spot this in other ways. Assumedly you're sure he's not gay. There is no secret specific Englishness involved here. Try to get him ALONE and initiate a kiss, maybe do so drunk so you have an excuse if he gets pissy like a cissy and thinks you are betraying your friendship.

hi, makeart!

ask and ye shall receive!

pissy like a cissy. i like it.

yeah, i keep thinking one of these nights we are out drinking (never a lot for him, though, as he always has his motorcycle to drive home. i plan to find a way to remedy that this weekend...) i will just make a move and kiss him, but...there really hasn't felt like there's been an opportune moment. (yes, despite the close-sitting and drinking beer and touchy-talk and stuff. believe it or not.)

*resists urge to test theory and ask internet for blowjob*

also we are almost always alone. which is kind of purposeful on my part, as i've been hoping/waiting for something to happen that hasn't. sigh. tomorrow night we agreed to go out w/our respective classmates from thai massage school (we are each at different schools).

alcohol will be involved. wish me luck...

I didn't mean alone in a bar, I mean alone in a hotel room or on a beach at night, something like that.

I wish you look as always. You could make this a lot easier though. You both go to massage school. A private meeting to "practice" and discuss technique gets you both semi-naked and touching while prostrate.

ah, but thai massage is fully clothed!

but don't think i haven't thought of that, of course. i am cooking up plans for saturday. that bike ride, for example. alone in the countryside...

we were alone outside my guest house saying goodnight last night...does that *almost* count as a hotel room? like, *near* a hotel room? on a dark, deserted street, even.

like i said, i got a hug.

another thing is he has a tv and i could just say 'you know, you should invite me over to watch a movie one night.'

but right now i sent him a semi-amusing text and haven't heard back so whereas i was feeling pretty sure that he must be interested in me too because all the signs are there but i guessed he was just taking it slowly, now i'm feeling less confident.

but that is momentary until i hear back from him, i imagine.

sigh. such silliness!