okc and i have had a long relationship. both good and bad. ive met some cool people on there but the cool to creeper ratio is low. like for every amazing person i meet i have to go through 100 insane people. i find it more amusing than actually somewhere i think i will meet someone.
perhaps someone will prove me wrong.

I recently came across a woman who billed herself as "very open-minded," "open to anything," etc. -- but at the same time, noted that she didn't like *any* hip-hop released after "Paul's Boutique."

So, as a fan of hip-hop, I wrote:

"Now, are you talking about the commercialized form of "hip-hop," or the genre in general? If it's the former, I'd like to take the liberty of recommending Lyrics Born and DJ Format. Good beats, clever lyrics and nothing offensive. But, I'm interested in hearing your take on the matter. Take care for now :)"

Her response: "In my experience, I havne't heard anything I like since P's B. I suppose it doesn't mean its not out there. But thus far, not impressed."

And that was it. Yeah, way to have an open mind about music. Pssht.

i see the "very open minded" part. heh.

oooh we should all post eachothers okc profiles.

mine.

http://www.okcupid.com/profile?u=city_kitty

Well let's see. I moved to OKC in Sep of 2004. I like it here. There's a cool music scene. I wish we would get a natural food store downtown. You can drive 15 mins in any direction and see cows. It's too hot here and I want to move.

;)

I currently have no complaints with OkCupid, as it is where I met the 24 year-old high school English teacher with a hidden kinky side that I'm currently seeing.

woot. JAS....

I get blown off by girls there all the time. Way higher rate of flakes than in real life.

the best things i have goin on on OKCupid of late tend to be GTI ladies...

though a girl did hit me up yesterday who's totally in my wheelhouse -- hipster specs, geeky t-shirts, bangs, love of dive bars and B movies.

of course, she lives not-close.

@Jas - i hate you. (you lucky bastid, you!)

@toy... really?

that "Who's Stalked You" list can be a little disheartening, once you see that a woman you've written stopped to look at your profile and, presumably, THEN chose not to reply.

i disagree. sometimes i look at someone's page several times before i choose to write or not

Girl: I get that. But I'm looking at it from the other side of that angle.

Which reminds me, I *should* post another journal entry soon ...

@Art - yeah....i know. i've had that happen a couple'a times recently.

luckily, one of the "new photos" i decided to click on and check out was the girl who decided to check out my profile, and decided to write back. which is always nice.

Garak: And she contacted you? That's rare, from what I understand.

Or maybe it's just my momoness coming home to roost.

@thegirlinyourhead: Yes really. It seems like girls there like to talk to me in the internet and then flake when it's time to actually meet. I have so far only met three people through okstupid. One I dated for a couple of months but she got really clingy and just declared that I was her boyfriend, one had an internet boyfriend the whole time that she never actually "broke up with" despite saying she did and decided to "go back to him", and one I totally did not like at all and never saw again.

@toy. wow. ok lets see. one i dated for 7 months. perhaps a few i made out with. one i would have run off to the circus with and never come back if he would have asked.

I don't know if I have the wrong approach or if people are just flakey or what. Maybe it's the region I live in?

what region?

i've met 3 folks from OKC and 2 from a similar place.

2 several month relationships, 1 couple dates, 1 single date, 1 long term online friendship (she later was the person who introduced me to consu).

I live in San Francisco.

@toy... oooh lots of opportunity there. SF awesome for guys into the ladies.

Well, I've gotten a few messages from "a slutty submissive male cross dresser", quite a few guys over 50, and numerous guys who OBVIOUSLY have nothing in common with me and didn't even read my profile. WTF is up with that? Oh, and a random marriage proposal from someone i'd never met. Haha, Surprisingly enough, though, I'm currently in a really good relationship with someone that I met on okcupid. We've been dating since February. Before that I did date someone else briefly but it didn't end up working out.

@Luthiensingollo i TOTALLY forgot about the random marriage proposals from strangers. those just make me laugh. and the occasional over 50 creepers. those also make me laugh.

Okcupid and I are taking a break.

Over a year ago, my current boyfriend woo'd at me on OKCupid, but we didn't actually get together until 2 months ago. WEIRD, RIGHT? He claims that this is because he always gets what he wants.

It's gotten me two hookups, one brief relationship, and Strangerbox, who is now living with me.

There were also a bunch of awkward dates, but that's par for course.

I've gone on...two? other dates with people I met from OKCupid. They were fairly awkward. Neither of them resulted in anything, and the main reason I went on one of them was to get the guy to STOP talking to me. Amazing how well that works.

@valkyrie WOW. from a year ago wooed you and now you two are a couple. thats awesome!

San Francisco okstupid is not proving very opportune for me.

@Community Toy

dating is a definite mystery.

I suppose so, but it's really frustrating when everyone is going on about how easy it should be for me when it is like trying to break down a door by slowly walking into it with my face over and over.

NOT TRYING just means I have no dates at all.

Well, I'm not on okstupid every day sending messages to every girl. I probably login once a week unless I get an email telling me I have a message.

I deleted my okcupid account after a week.

They sent me a letter saying that okcupid girls want me really bad, but I guess that they're lying - it was all about people looking at my profile and not neccesarily about them seeing a hot stud in me.

^Same for me.

@thegirlinyourhead: Ha, yeah, but things were tilted in our favor. We went to 5th grade together, and we have a coupla mutual friends, one of whom I asked to introduce me to cute boys when I got back home, completely unaware that he had any relation to this kid.

@val. AWWWWWW. thats a great story.

Yeah, we're a regular fairytale couple. (not!)

@val. i dont beleive in fairy tales. im a realist.

:)

i still think that story is pretty cute.