6 years is a long time, people change, maybe he has too.

If that is who you love, then that is who you love,

If they can't accept it, that's a hard thing, but love is like a dinner you make for someone. If they don't eat it all, is it right to get angry at them? People can only accept the love they're willing to accept. Maybe once he could only nibble. Perhaps now he can accept a full meal.

But if he can't; then maybe you can offer that meal to someone else. You must move forward, because if you're serving someone who refuses to share with you, then you're the one who's stuck.

You love him. Say so. It takes me a long while to fall in love, so time is sometimes on your side. But it's better to go forward and either open a new door with him, or close it forever.

If you don't say anything, then all that love is just going to sit and fester and turn into something strange and bitter. A girl I fell for shot me down quickly; we became friends after that, then got closer until we got together. But it wasn't that she had fallen for me; she was just reflecting the feelings I was sending her way. It ended badly, and it took another year before we spoke again, but our friendship became deep and important. All of which to say, if he shoots you down again, you can walk away for a while.

@skanko - i kind of feel like he has, especially since he sends me random texts saying "dear lauren, i think you're great", amongst other things, but i'm just too cautious to say anything. i was MORTIFIED after the last time.

@superion - i know, i knowwww i can't force him to feel the same. it just sucks so MUCH because i'd rather be his friend than nothing at all, but they way our friendship is just leads me on all the time.

@chain boy - this is true. he's trying to move to korea for a year to teach english, so if i say ANYTHING at all it'll probably be right before he leaves so i have that "you live across the world" excuse to not talk to him.

idk it just sucks. a lot. skdfjslkdfj.

oh, and he did something REALLY cute for me recently. i told him i love that "still fly" song by the cash money millionaires and he made an acoustic version of it and said that i inspired him to make it.

THIS IS WHY I AM SO GOSH DARN CONFLICTED UGH.

@laurennn : I guess the point of my story was, if you have a real friendship, it'll survive the hurt and mortification. (As to the girl in my story, she's married and has a baby daughter and now lives in the small town where her family is from.)

And to echo CB; a resolution for you means that you understand where you are in the relationship. You aren't being led on anymore.

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Yeah, you should just love Robbie. He will never toy with your heart.

probably should've excommunicated back then

@lauren - nothing ventured, nothing gained, i mean are you in any WORSE position than you are right now if you say something? obviously you two were able to still be friends afterwards, i think mature people would be able to do that. but i always feel its better to know, than to wonder what could have been.