So what I'm trying to say is, cheaters exist for a reason and they just need so many fuxx like all the time, so hey, let 'em have at it and stretch their cooches to the maxx and get warts all over their schlong
No, some people seem to have this as a behavior thing, but i'd say the majority of cheaters are not going to cheat in every relationship they're in. however, i think twice or thrice a cheater, always a cheater. that's a pattern of behavior.
no dsm-iv code, (I looked it up) but there is a 302.9 Sexual Disorder Not Otherwise Specified that includes "Distress about a pattern of repeated sexual relationships involving a succession of lovers who are experienced by the individual only as things to be used" - to wit, if you're addicted to sex AND feel bad about it, you could have a viable diagnosis.
There is something to the "right person" argument; I knew a woman who cheated on both of her steady boyfriends of the past three years. She seems happier with her current boyfriend, who seems to meet her fetish/scene needs.
I don't buy it. I think that people will engage in behavior that is successful for them though. If there are no consequences to making mistakes, then there is no motive to change. People can change, though.
But, cheaters don't just cheat. Relationships work between two people, and if you are cheating or being cheated on, then the question is; what's wrong with your collective scene? You picked someone, they picked you, what's going on there?
I think cheating is a behavior with multiple causes. Why did they cheat? Was it because their relationship sucked and they were looking for the attention that the relationship was sorely lacking? Did the cheater get really drunk some place? Each cheating situation has different causes.
That being said, I know guys and girls who have cheated on their girlfriends and boyfriends in the past who are now married. I dunno if they've remained faithful, but their respective marriages seem happy from the outside.
Well, when I cheated I was with a boy that threatened to off himself every time I tried to break up with him (which I did just about every two weeks for a year) and I didn't have the balls to call his bluff. Then I met this guy that I clicked real well with and went over to his house to hang out with him and his roommate, real innocent like, because I was avoiding packing to move in to a new place... then I drank 3 or 4 margaritas and seduced the fuck right out of him! Now he's my boyfriend of a year and his roommate is OUR roommate and we love each other and I wouldn't cheat on him, because I have no desire to and even if I wanted to, I respect him too much to cheat. I'd just break up with him, he can take it. I've learned by lesson about being with boys I do not respect or care for.
I think so, but like Bobby Brown said, "It's my perogative"
So what I'm trying to say is, cheaters exist for a reason and they just need so many fuxx like all the time, so hey, let 'em have at it and stretch their cooches to the maxx and get warts all over their schlong
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I hope not, my body could not withstand another dose of powerful guilt and passion.
My mind's telling me No, but my body's telling me Yes.
Oops.. I meant that the other way around.
No. There are certainly some people who are, but anyone can learn from their mistakes if they're willing to.
No, some people seem to have this as a behavior thing, but i'd say the majority of cheaters are not going to cheat in every relationship they're in. however, i think twice or thrice a cheater, always a cheater. that's a pattern of behavior.
This convo makes me think of cheating and 10 of the women I looked at on the way to work today and a small inflatable pool and lots of baby oil.
Does cheating have a DSM-IV code?
@lamebrains: yeah, the cheat code is that up-up-down-down-left-right-a-b-a-b-start thing.
nope, they just haven't found the right person.
EXCELLENT! Do I get an extra life as well, or just all weapons?
I think they just have to find the right person.
People can always change.
no dsm-iv code, (I looked it up) but there is a 302.9 Sexual Disorder Not Otherwise Specified that includes "Distress about a pattern of repeated sexual relationships involving a succession of lovers who are experienced by the individual only as things to be used" - to wit, if you're addicted to sex AND feel bad about it, you could have a viable diagnosis.
ME: I'm a wigwam... I'm a teepee... I'm a wigwam... I'm a teepee!
SHRINK: No, you're just too tense(two tents). YUK YUK YUK YUK
There is something to the "right person" argument; I knew a woman who cheated on both of her steady boyfriends of the past three years. She seems happier with her current boyfriend, who seems to meet her fetish/scene needs.
I don't buy it. I think that people will engage in behavior that is successful for them though. If there are no consequences to making mistakes, then there is no motive to change. People can change, though.
But, cheaters don't just cheat. Relationships work between two people, and if you are cheating or being cheated on, then the question is; what's wrong with your collective scene? You picked someone, they picked you, what's going on there?
I think cheating is a behavior with multiple causes. Why did they cheat? Was it because their relationship sucked and they were looking for the attention that the relationship was sorely lacking? Did the cheater get really drunk some place? Each cheating situation has different causes.
That being said, I know guys and girls who have cheated on their girlfriends and boyfriends in the past who are now married. I dunno if they've remained faithful, but their respective marriages seem happy from the outside.
once, not necessarily. several times? it's possible.
Thanks for weighing in guys.
former cheater, totally reformed. it can happen.
Former cheaters....what reformed you?
Well, when I cheated I was with a boy that threatened to off himself every time I tried to break up with him (which I did just about every two weeks for a year) and I didn't have the balls to call his bluff. Then I met this guy that I clicked real well with and went over to his house to hang out with him and his roommate, real innocent like, because I was avoiding packing to move in to a new place... then I drank 3 or 4 margaritas and seduced the fuck right out of him! Now he's my boyfriend of a year and his roommate is OUR roommate and we love each other and I wouldn't cheat on him, because I have no desire to and even if I wanted to, I respect him too much to cheat. I'd just break up with him, he can take it. I've learned by lesson about being with boys I do not respect or care for.
Thanks for that ginger.
@kmon: growing up. not wanting to be an a-hole.
Would you say it had more to do with you, or the other person in your life?