friends with benefits friends zone?

Could be worse.

no benefits here. 'ceptin the good company and all, but still...pffft.

lamesauce!

clearly this person is either confused or deluded.

english boy texted me that 'in the light of day' he wasn't 'feeling so confident about taking a passenger' on his motorbike.

since i decided that our day out together on the motorbike was going to be the final shit-or-get-off-the-pot moment for me, i am taking this as a sign that e.b. is not interested in, um, this particular pot.

oh god, AWFUL analogy. sorry.

that fuckin sucks, sorry

@xop: you are sweet but, you know, maybe he's just not that into me. happens.

Hey, it lets you go at the belgian boy.

he still seems to want to spend more time with me than one would think you might want to spend w/someone you had totally friendzoned.

You know, I think maybe you should play hard to get.

we are going out tonight (with the belgian boy) and have a cooking class all day together tomorrow and he suggested (after dissing me ever-so-nicely for today) going out after that to a part of town we've been talking about checking out.

@oom: by hitting on belgian boy, perhaps?

i've been wondering if being friendzoned gives me license to hit on his belgian friend.

it will only be the three of us tonight...bad form?

By not spending so much time with him.

All's fair in love and war.

good point, though i technically only have a week left here so that would be cutting off my proverbial nose, i guess.

and travel. and travel hook-ups. don't forget that.

HIT ON THE BELGIAN FRIEND.

Yep. Exactly.

all of the other possible candidates for my list that i've been hanging out with are all SO much hotter than english boy, anyway. who is not hot at all.

now, belgian boy, he's hot.

all those hot boys, though? all in their 20s. and possibly the first half of their 20s...

You're only there a week, right?

You did everything that could have been expected of you, and more. For whatever reason, valid or no, he didn't reciprocate on a level you would accept or deserve. So now go have fun :) :)

prolly i am reading too much into this and shouldn't even go here, but it actually occurred to me that it's possible that it was because i was so friendly w/the belgian (who i had just met for the first time last night) that he lost his nerve and decided maybe i wasn't into him after all. since i was so friendly (and, yeah, prolly flirty. i was drunk.) w/everyone else at the bar last night too.

yeah, one more week. then i think i'm going to an organic farm for the weekend with a cute young aussie hippie boy (who would be a jesus-boy, actually, if he didn't have dreads). well, blond blue-eyed jesus. and possibly skinnier than the real one too.

but, in fact, just to prevent e.b. from thinking this (well, not *just* for that reason) when the three of us walked home last night i linked my arm in english boy's.

and today he canceled our only alone-time outing.

message perfectly clear, right???

Unless he's an idiot.

@-j: ie everything that you could expect someone just this shy of throwing themself at someone else would do...

I dunno, I've found that inhibitions are generally loosened when traveling so I think E.B. might have some issues that don't have anything to do with you.

As clueless as I am about flirting (I rarely pick up on it), I think I'd be able to process what was going on here.

I'm with Oom. I don't think there's any way this guy CAN'T get the picture by now...so there are other forces at work here. He's stoppered up tight.

ok, you are all right, of course. i will officially move on.

mentally, if not actually with belgian boy in front of english boy's face...

but i guess one should never underestimate a rejected catlady...especially when alcohol is involved.

We never do ;)

well, you guys are not a rejecting english boy...

Since we're talking about it while I was playing with a new song, it is now called Friendzone.

hey, cool. can i listen to it on your blog?

I think you'll find I AM a rejected English boy.

@catlady - You will be able to when I have it finished. I'll let you know. :)

yeah, fake english boys don't count.

i think we can say that i have been roundly rejected. we ended up hanging out w/some of my friends tonight, no alcohol. (turns out he was hungover today from last night.) no belgian boy.

his motorbike got locked inside the restaurant where we left it so instead of driving me home like he'd offered, we both walked.

when we came to the street where it was time to part i swear he was standing even farther away from me than usual. no hug.

i swear i think he *was* into me and i did something to turn him off and now he's most definitely NOT.

ah well. next. i really need to start compiling a new list...

and by next i mean 'next!'

you should have both EB and BB. concurrently.

that would be even more of a challenge, and clearly one i am not up to. (well, they aren't up to...)

@makeart: rejectED. not rejectING.

i am the rejected american girl here.

@ catlady : Oh yes. Good point.

I was monstrously hungover when I wrote that.

just like an english boy! (sorry, just kidding. english boy was hungover yesterday and that's why we didn't go out to the bar to meet belgian boy.)